our memorial day dinner

People say that women have the worst attitudes. Well, those are people that have not met the men in my family.These guys resent having to lift one finger even if it is to benefit themselves.
Tonight I planned a nice family bbq. All of the foods that these guys like. I asked if one of them could bring an extra chair to the table at the deck and you would have thought I asked for a million dollars. All of them had an attitude! My dh decided he needed to go to the restroom ( aka, his place to hide until all of the work has been done). So, Josh's friend who was over for dinner offered to help. Joel and Josh started fighting over who was going to make their plate first. Of course, if there is an occasion to yell, Chris can manage to come out of the restroom and do it. We all get our plates and head outside. Every one of them complained about the flies. It was lovely, I tell you, just lovely.
After dinner, I asked the boys to let me have their plates if they could put away the extra chair and scoot the table back. They were OK w/ that, but Chris was all bent out of shape about something. I get inside and I call Joel to help me. He complains that "Josh never has to help". I explained, even though at this point I am beyond sick of explaining and being nice, that they are helping w/ the outside stuff. Joel helps, and Chris is already laying on the couch. I ask him if he can come help so I do not have to do it all. He comes, but is the biggest butthead about it. We get everything done, and everyone is headed to their own things, the boys to their video games, and dh to the tv to watch sci fi. He noticed my empty ben and jerrys container in the garbage and asks what I got him. I tell him and low and behold could it be any other way?? I got the wrong kind. Of course. It is really frustrating me because I am working really hard to make wonderful family memories for my kids and it is not really working out so well I don't think. None of them realize the importance of it, and they honestly do not seem to care. Should I keep caring? Should I keep plugging away at it? It is honestly exhausting, trying to plan things, and keep everyone civil to eachother. I mean, everyone loves eachother and no one is abusive but they are not plesant memories, at least for me.
Maybe when I am less upset I can try to talk to everyone about this again.

time marches on

Today as I waited outside the pool for Joel, I started thinking about how just 6 years ago, he, his brother and I waited in line to get into the pool. I was too afraid to drop them off alone, so I stayed w/ them every day. Then, two years later, I could allow them to stay alone there. Now, Joel is a lifegaurd. He is the guy sitting people out, instead of the guy being sat out. He is in charge of other people's safety. Wow. Just wow.
He said to me on the way home today, "You just do not understand what it is like watching a bunch of kids all day!" LOL! What did he think I was doing all those years as a preschool teacher? How bout all of the days w/ his brother, their friends and him?
He is such a joy, and a wonderful kid.

..and the thunder rolls....

Hopefully we will get some rain here, we are getting thunder. I am crossing my fingers it is just for tonight though. All my guys work outside,lol. Joel has started working and loves it. Josh is working at the paintball course w/ his friend Chris, and they love it too. Josh and Chis have dyed their hair black so we call them the blackheads,lol.
I had a super day today, the boys all stayed at Chris' house so I did not have to run anyone to town at the crack of dawn. I stayed home all day, scrapped, made dinner, watched tv. It was a great day.
I started my diet Wednesday. I was doing well before dh's surgery, so I am just going to pick up where I left off. I am making sure I get the three calcium servings, the loads of fruit and veggies, no more than 3 oz of meat per day ( that is part of the RA diet) and as much as possible eating whole grains. Drink my usual water plus a serving or two of green tea.
I did a layout today for my bom, about the last time I went to the hospital. I am going to do another layout for my book tomorrow, and then switch gears to my recipes I think.
Chris ( dh) is doing better every week, he is tired at the end of the day, but he is making it all the way through.
Well, this blog thing is a struggle for me, I need to get the hang of it. I am going to push myself for a daily entry.

a busy weekend!

Looking forward to some time at home this afternoon, hopefully. I have been so busy running the kids here and there. Joel started his first job yesterday, he is beyond excited. He found out there is another lifegaurd that lives close to us w/ a car woo hoo! That might help out this summer. I have no real goals for today except getting the scraparea clean.If that happens, I may spend the afternoon scrapping and listening to lifetime movies. I am waiting for chris to get home from town and we are going to watch Ray together.

my first post

I have no idea how this silly thing works, I am just copying my friends who all seem to blog. I got flipped off today when I put on my blinker and passed this car, who was going 25 mph under the speed limit. What a goof. Anyway, I went to walmart and as the lady behind me pointed out " man, you sure have a lot of projects going on today" LOL so I better go.